Bye Felicia ! A Guide to Removing Emotional Vampires out of Your life





Hey It's your girl JA Nursing here, how have you all been? So  as we  get closer to the end of the year it's that  time to wipe away negative people and situations out of  our lives. So one day  I heard someone say #ByeFelicia, with keeping that in mind
Emotional vampires are lurking everywhere and wear many different disguises–from needy relatives to workplace bullies. Whether they do so intentionally or not, these people can make us feel overwhelmed, depressed, defensive, angry, and wiped out.

The phrase "Bye, Felicia" came from the American stoner buddy crime comedy film Friday (1995). According to Ice Cube, who starred in the film and co-wrote its script, "Bye, Felicia" is "the phrase 'to get anyone out of your face.'"[1]



You can’t live a positive life around negative people. Sadly, some people love  seeing the negative side of things that they leave zero room for positive things to grow.
The first step to getting rid of them is to remove any negative people from your Facebook and phone book as you can. It can be emotionally draining just being around them, and you must be careful because their negative attitudes and opinions are contagious.

Negativity fuels itself, breeds dissatisfaction and clutters the mind. And when the mind is cluttered with negativity, happiness is hard to come by. Ignore these people and move on from them when you must. Seriously, be strong and know when enough is enough! Letting go of negative people doesn’t mean you hate them, or that you wish them harm; it just means you care about your own well-being.

Because every time you subtract negative from your life, you make room for more positive. Here's   your 7 Bye Felicia people that you need to remove from your Circle ASAP

1. The  drama queen/king. Some people love to stir up controversy and drama for no apparent reason. Don’t buy in to their propaganda. Stay out of other people’s drama and don’t needlessly create your own. Keep your  calm  and replace the stink of confrontation with the fragrance of resolution.  The more drama they want to stir, the calmer and more confidently you need to think and speak. Don’t let them get to you. Always remember why you  exist; ignore their  antics and focus on kindness.  I  have learned how to express my self from a place of peace, hence my daily motivational quotes, I decided to use my voice quite some time ago  for good – to inspire, to encourage, to educate, and to spread the notions of compassion and understanding. Put this is something that takes time.  Of course  I am human and going  0-100 real quick has been a daily journey for me.



 2. The person you have failed to please a hundred times before. Some people are impossible to please; you will not be able to break through to them no matter what you do. Accept this harsh as a fact of life. Throughout your lifetime some people will discredit you, disrespect you and treat you poorly for no apparent reason at all. Don’t consume yourself with trying to change them or win their approval. And don’t make any space in your heart to hate them. Simply walk away and let karma deal with the things they do, because any bit of time you spend on them will be wasted, and any bit of hate and aggravation in your heart will only hurt you.  They have even gone as far as to call them

3. The naysayer who always dumps on your dreams.  We all know that person  YOU  NEED TO Stop giving credit to those who discredit your dreams. These people are punishing your potential by slowly extinguishing your inner flame with their watered down vision of what you are capable of achieving. If you give in and let their negativity convince you of who you are, their madness will  tear you down. You  could potentially become  who they say you are, rather than living honestly as yourself. In this way, these people will steal your life from you. You will lose track of where their opinion ends and your reality begins. Their fiction will become your life’s story. So look beyond their presumptions and mental limitations, and connect with your own best vision of what YOU are capable of and how YOUR life can be. Life, after all, is an open-ended journey, and 99% what you achieve comes directly from what you work to achieve on a daily basis.

4. The manipulator. Beware of manipulators, or bullies, who try to use their negativity to intimidate and manipulate your thoughts. If you observe them from a distance, you will realize that these people are often overly self-referential. In other words, the people around them (YOU) fit into their plan simply based on how they can be used or manipulated for their own personal gain. These people routinely prioritize their own feelings and needs over and above everyone else’s. They will demand that you bend over to help them, but if, heaven forbid, you need help, they will not be able to stand it. Bottom line: Some people will say and do anything, thoughtlessly, to get others to do what they want them to do. Do not accept this behavior as normal. When someone tries to bully you, stand up for yourself and say, “Not so fast,  Felicia ! Your delusion of superiority is your problem, not mine.” And if they refuse to reason with you, walk away without a fight.

5. The stubborn one who insists you should be someone else. In the long run, it’s always better to be disrespected for who you are than respected for who you are not. In fact, the only relationships that work well are the ones that make you a better person without changing you into someone other than yourself.  I have always said my goal is to change the face of knowledge. PEOPLE always assume and have a opinion of  Who Michelle Smith JA Nursing should be  without preventing  me from outgrowing the person I used to be. Unfortunately, families and old friends often fail to recognize how you’ve changed and grown over the years. They also tend to label you in an unfair way based on who you used to be; and it’s easy to end up conforming to these labels because you remember when they were true.
What’s important to remember is that you’re the only person in the world who knows what’s happening inside your head right now. People who don’t know you well may assume you’re someone else entirely. And people who think they know you well may have pigeonholed you – but you know there’s more to you than what they see. When you ignore their opinions and decide to be who you are, instead of who they want you to be, you open yourself up to real love, real happiness, and real success. There is no need to put on a mask. There is no need to pretend to be someone you’re not. You don’t have control over what others think about you, but you do have control over how you decide to internalize their opinions. Leave them to their own judgments. Don’t feel threatened and don’t conform just to please them. Let people love you for who you are, and not for who they want you to be. Or let them walk away if they choose. They can’t harm you either way; it’s their understanding that is faulty, not yours.

 6. The unforgiving friend who refuses to forgive you for your mistakes. The most honorable thing is not to never make mistakes, but to admit to them when you do make them, and then to follow through and do your best to make the wrong things right. Mistakes are part of growing. They are a natural part of every worthwhile endeavor. If someone refuses to support you as you grow beyond your past mistakes, they are now the one that’s making a mistake. Holding on to the unchangeable past is a waste of energy and serves no purpose in creating a better day today. If someone continuously judges you by your past, holds it against you, and refuses to forgive you, you might have to repair your present and future by leaving them behind.



7. The inner critic. Boom! Wake-up call! Yes, sadly, the inner critic is inside YOU. Self-criticism often goes hand in hand with unhappiness and anxiety, and it’s completely unjustified. There is no reason to be your own biggest critic – No one is perfect and  all changes occurs in stages.  All you really need is the courage to be yourself. Your real value is rooted in who you are, not who you aren’t. The flaws you often see in yourself are only the qualities of your own individuality. There is something unique and special about you. You are different. You will never be as good as someone else, and they will never be as good as you. Just as no two snowflakes are alike, your fingerprints are different from every other being on Earth. You are meant to be different. You are here to express who you are and enjoy what you have at this very moment. When you accept this, there is no reason to compare yourself to someone or something you aren’t. There is nothing for the inner critic to complain about. Every morning when you wake up, think of three things that are going well in YOUR life at the moment. As you fall asleep every night, fill your mind with an appreciation for all the small things that went well during the day. Examine the goodness that is YOUR life, and let your inner critic overhear the five-star reviews about YOU. Afterthoughts When people undermine your dreams, predict your doom, criticize you, and generally resist the truth about who you are, remember, they’re telling you their own sad story, not yours. They’re dumping their own doubts into the air. Ignore them. If the person doing this is you (your inner critic), try giving up all the thoughts and contemplation's that make you feel bad, or even just some of them, for the rest of the day. See how doing that changes your life. You don’t need these negative thoughts. All they have ever given you is a false self that suffers for no reason. Your turn… What kind of negativity do you struggle to defend yourself against? How do you cope?



 Please leave a comment below and share your insights with me This has been watching out  for your health with Michelle  Smith your health and social advocate.  Remember tell them Felecia's  GOOD BYE!  stay connected this blog was intended to help with your mental wellness. Which is cultivated through positive thoughts. Have a awesome day.

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